Saturday, April 13, 2013

Trinity of Truth Tip: Use Your Feet and Walk Away

I learn a lot from my grandsons.  Not long ago, I overheard my daughter say to the older of the two boys (when little brother wouldn't leave him alone), "Use your feet and walk away."  She was giving her oldest a choice of either staying there and continue being annoyed or to get up and move away from little brother who was climbing all over him and invading his personal space.

To say, "I have no choice" is claiming the role of victim. Claiming the role of victim takes all your power, bundles it up, and hands it over to whoever is victimizing you.  You never win when you claim the role of victim.  Never.  You feel defended, annoyed, and abused.  You react instead of getting away from the situation or person.

We always have a choice—even if that choice is accepting what is (without resentment) or shifting an attitude from "why me?" to one of curiosity.  Maybe an attitude like, “Hmmm, I wonder why they’re acting that way (whatver "that way" is)?  Maybe they need some attention or maybe they’re like that with everybody.  Work to have an attitude of, "it’s not about me" and then let it go (walk away).  It's easy to get caught up in the role of victim when we are feeling abused.  But, the behavior of other people isn’t about you.  Don’t let it be by reacting to it.  

It’s not always possible, but next time someone’s “victimizing” you, think about how you can “use your feet and walk away.”  You never know, it could be that the person who’s got you worked up is so crazy about you—like the little brother who thinks his big bro is a superhero—that their overbearing energy is simply enthusiasm for you!  If it’s too much, gracefully use your feet and walk away.

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