A simple technique is this:
Close your eyes. Just for a moment, imagine you have no eyes. Imagine you can only "see" without the benefit of eyes. In your mind's eye, what would you see? How do others feel to you?
Now, imagine everyone else is the same. Everyone can see, but without eyes. How would you express feelings with each other? How would you know if they are pretty? If you are? How would you like for others to see you?
There are many ways, but the number one means to show others if you are pretty on the inside or not is reflected in your tone of voice.
Your tone of voice reflects your feelings (your insides) ...and it never lies. Ever. Specifically, what's reflected in our tone of voice is ...attitude, perspective, judgments, emotions ...whether you're happy, sad, or mad. You don't have to see anything to feel everything.
Others can see your insides...pretty or not...by the tone of your voice.
In general, practice using a kind, loving, gentle tone. If you're mad or sad, work to express your feelings with calmness instead of harsh or unkind words (take the high road). Others listen better when they are not on guard for fear of being cut by your sharp tongue.
Really work to see yourself as an expression of love, kindness, and understanding ...pretty. Then.... turn yourself inside out.
Really work to see yourself as an expression of love, kindness, and understanding ...pretty. Then.... turn yourself inside out.
The words you choose and how you use them also speaks volumes about your insides (your character ...your true nature)—they reflect the intentions of your heart. Making fun of people, for example, not only exposes a close-minded attitude and hurts others but it keeps you locked in a state of ignorance.
ReplyDeletePutting stuff on the outside—like makeup, designer clothes and accessories or hairstyles—are great for complementing one's natural beauty and can be a lot of fun. But to think these things are what "make you pretty"—while at the same time being unkind—keeps you further trapped in the grips of ignorance. Worse, it reflects one's poor attempt at camouflaging the not so pretty insides.
Being kind, gentle, thoughtful and respectful is a good place to start if you wish for others to see you as "pretty on the inside". It's not in the pretty mask ...the camouflage.